Bully and stalker

When someone is making you fall flat in the mud – this dirty behavior is called bullying, a person who likes to mess up other people’s reputation is a true bully. When someone follows you around and it’s not your shadow, it is most LIKELY a stalker.
Let’s get this straight once and for all: who’s the online bully and who the cyber stalker?

CYBERBULLY

… uses technology to harass, embarrass, humiliate or insult another person, repeatedly sends hurtful messages and starts rumors to shame and humiliate.

Their most frequent target are peers from their environment. Therefore, this is often considered A FORM OF PEER VIOLENCE.

Cyberbullies usually start their abusive behavior during secondary school.

Cyberbullies most often show their behavior publicly, on social networks and chatting applications. They feed on laughter and positive reactions of their environment– this is the wind in their sails.

Their intention is to exclude a specific person from society.

CYBER STALKER

…  uses technology to spy on, harass and collect information about other persons within a set timeframe, in order to scare them and blackmail them.

Their most frequent victims are girls who they are allegedly “blindly in love with”, whether in a relationship with them or not, especially if they have recently split up.

This is why it is often considered a “PROLONGED” FORM OF VIOLENCE IN A PARTNER RELATIONSHIP.

Cyber stalkers start behaving this way during their teen ages, but their abuse becomes more dangerous after the period of secondary school.

Cyber stalkers most frequently show their behavior far from the public eye. They feed on their victim’s fear and on controlling them.

Their intention is for the stalked person to be completely under their control and completely focused on them.

The most frequent victims of cyberbullying and cyberstalking are girls and young women, while the perpetrators are most frequently boys and young men, which means that these types of violence also belong TO GENDER-BASED CYBER VIOLENCE.

CONSEQUENCES FOR VICTIMS OF THE CYBERBULLY AND CYBER STALKER CAN BE VERY SERIOUS!

The most severe consequence for the victim of the cyberbully: SUICIDE.

The most severe consequence for the victim of the cyber stalker: BECOMING A VICTIM OF HOMICIDE.

CYBERBULLYING AND CYBERSTALKING ARE CRIMINAL ACTS!

All acts of bullying, including cyberbullying, such as insults and threats, represent criminal acts with sanctions including fines or prison. THIS APPLIES EVEN WHEN THE PERPETRATORS ARE MINORS, AND IT IS CONSIDERED A PARTICULARLY SERIOUS OFFENCE IF THE VICTIM IS A MINOR.

Stalking, including cyberstalking, is a criminal act with sanctions including fines or prison for up to 3 years! THIS APPLIES EVEN WHEN THE PERPETRATORS ARE MINORS, AND IT IS CONSIDERED A PARTICULARLY SERIOUS OFFENCE IF THE VICTIM IS A MINOR.

Both these abusers have existed long before the internet, but today technology makes it easier for them to “advance” their abusive behavior to intimidate and shame their victims.

Today, both the bully and stalker rarely abuse without using any technology.